May 08, 2015
Learning About Violence in the World:
As a young kid I had to repeat the first grade- via not caring to learn and caring more about giving pay back to bullies.
I was first introduced to physical violence from my father as a young boy at three years of age. I was pulled out of bed and paraded around the house and beaten by a drunken father in front of my mother and her in front of me (For years).
A a young boy I coped with the violence by believing that I was the only truly real person in the world (coping mechanism).
I realized my mother couldn't save me from the painful beatings. I thought these folks couldn't be real humans to do what they did.
Finding My Way:
As a young boy I turned to my martial arts training and my belief in God and the bible for relief and hope of better days.
As I grew older, Martial arts was there and helped me realize that, yes people are all flawed, but that we can try to become better people.
I went through different phases of martial arts, traditional training, American style kick boxing, boxing, karate, tae Kwan do, Kempo, Kendo, Japanese Jiu-Jutsu, weapons, for conditioning, fitness, self defense etc..
In school I had many fights and always stood up to bigger, stronger bullies. Besides martial arts I had the advantage of being seasoned to understand pain and to be able to accept the pain launched my way and to fight through that physical adversity (because of lessons learned from physical abuse since I was 3). In short, I could dish out violence back to bullies at a higher level than the bullies could to me.
Out of School:
Later as a young teen in the 10th grade I was signed out of school by my father and expected to work.
While out of school, and working construction I observed my father beating my mother in the kitchen. I was a 5'7inch tall and 110 pound 15 year old. I started to fight my father back. One of his employees put me in a full Nelson and my father pulled a knife on me. I kicked him, deflected the knife, got out of the full Nelson and broke a lamp across the head of my fathers employee. I beat my father down and relieved him of the knife.
I had to leave home. I slept on the couch of a martial arts teacher. She was not my teacher, but she was kind and helped me.
I felt a lot more full of confidence in life and went back to school, crammed courses and became the student government president of my school.
Enter the Chances and Opportunities in Life:
Then I entered Parris Island to become a US Marine. I went to an infantry unit. Martial arts had given me resolve and strength and courage to become a NCO in a Marine infantry and later a Marine Military Police Unit. Later in college someone saw me practicing in the park and offered me a security job. Another man saw me fight a tough 7 Round fight against a soon to be USA Kick Boxing Champion. That man asked me if I wanted to work private investigations, and drive an armored truck for him while I was in college. I also had an additional opportunity and took it to work as the smallest bouncer in a rough bar.
All of this would be stepping stones to get me to other positions (via parlaying my martial arts skills into law enforcement and security careers).
Later these positions helped to land me positions as a Police Officer in South Florida, and as a Federal Agent (Deputy US Marshal) etc..
Because of Martial Arts Training:
This all happened because of my martial arts experience.
No, for many decades I did not operate a martial arts school. I trained and trained, in the best law enforcement (defensive tactics) and military elite military (hand-2-hand) combative (Instructors Courses) programs. I was sent all around the nation from Guam to Miami to teach life saving skills of reality based self defense.
I continued to train in many different martial arts.
I was able to teach martial art in college, in the military, in law enforcement and get better law enforcement and security positions and make a better life for myself and my family because of my training.
Yes martial arts and jiu-jitsu can help you to land other positions you desire to work in.
Posted May 08, 2015
December 31, 2014
Lately, there have been many deaths of police officers; Assassinations and murders of them. I never thought I would grow up to see things like this in my lifetime. When one is a police officer, he or she walks a tough beat.
A lawyer has days or weeks to find the legal answer to a situation that occurred. A police officer has on average just a couple to a few months of training. In a violent, volatile situation, a police officer sometimes has only seconds until he/she makes a legal determination in a life and death situation.
Most police officers are taught very basic 8 to 12 hours of rudimentary defensive tactics (that was done in practice with a compliant partner who is just trying to pass the academy). Most of these techniques will not work on the street, and don't address core problems the officer will face in reality. Most officers will never receive defensive tactics training again during their career. 20-30 years later, after graduating the Police Academy, the officer finds him/herself 20-30 pounds heavier and out of shape. The officer is usually alone, and may have to face a younger, bigger, tougher, faster assailant. What option does an officer have once this formidable assailant suddenly attacks?
It's a shame that most police Departments don't have continuous defensive tactics training for their officers. Departments can save money by not providing this life saving training. An older officer who is killed in the line of duty, can be replaced by a couple of younger officers. Sad but true.
In comparison, could you imagine a CPA not attending yearly refresher training to see what new tax laws have been made? Being told they only need a calculator and basic math skills?
This is much the same for the officer. He/She will have to deal with more hand to hand violent physical altercations than situations where a firearm should be pulled.
If we expect the officer to be able to resolve situations properly, we need to give them the proper training in what they do the most (scenario situational training and street based functional defensive tactics). If we do not, we will be handing out more flags to deceased officer's family and burying more civilians.
Let's give officers continuous training and budget for it.
Who will help and protect the protectors that we expect will protect us? It's up to us to help them.
Posted December 31, 2014
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May 24, 2014
Folks who teach and preach that everyone is all winners teach a lie, a fabrication artificially created- they set their children up for failure.
They over protect and are helping to prepare their children for failure in the future. The kids will not have viable skills to be able to cope with real world problems. This sets them up to be fired from a job or loose a chance at a future promotion, or loose future friends, relationships and fail at marriage, etc.---all because the child is being told to believe that they can never loose. The child does not cultivate a healthy real world strategy and best practice methods to deal with real problems and be able to really do their best.
To the folks who want to hide the utter truth of real competition from your child, just realize that this head in the sand mentality you teach and cultivate might help you have an easier time bringing then up happy, but you are not preparing them for Real World Life.
In our classes we teach reality on our mats. Give your child the proper tools they need to succeed in life and don't teach them to hide from life.
"Relson Gracie Jiu-Jitsu/Lone Star MMA Academy, 3408-B Westway Street, Tyler Tx 75703--- (903)-509-1MMA (1662).
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February 07, 2013
TRAINING IN WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN:
( Respecting what others do)
We offer so much, so many different systems of combative sport, and reality based self defense combative systems/programs, to so many different folks.
EVERYONE HAS NEEDS AND THOSE NEEDS ARE DIFFERENT OTHER PEOPLES NEEDS:
Some folks enjoy and have a deep love for MMA, others for the the intricate and complex human chess game of Relson Gracie Jiu-Jitsu, still others enjoy learning several different street defense systems, such as The Relson Gracie Jiu-Jitsu Self defense, and others enjoy the competitive combat sport of:
Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu- Still others like to practice Jiujitsu, and MMA together, or Judo and Kick boxing, or shooting hand guns, long guns and pistols , for target, or combat shooting- so many different things- and then some folks only want to do one thing, one martial art. I am often asked "What's the best martial art?" I know something about martial arts in that I have over 52 years practicing them. My answer is: They are good for what they do. Some arts have great flexibility and stretching in them, some such as Tai Chi are good for lowering blood pressure, some are good for law enforcement, some are good for fighting on the battlefields, some are good for relaxing, some are good for conditioning and over all fitness levels, some are good for combative sports, some are good for street self defense. Different strokes for different folks. A Case in point: Look at a Honolulu, great weather- I lived there for 6.5 years- but not great weather for snow skiing etc- if everyone liked the same thing we all would all be atheist, agnostics, Christians, Buddhist, republicans, democrats, etc- etc. What a boring world it would be.
My way is not your way, and your way is not my way. I do not cut down or condemn those who train and stick to only one martial art or to a vegetarian, or meat eating only diet only, or those who lift weights for martial arts, or those who do not train with weights in conjunction with martial arts. I do not care if folks train in several different martial arts at one time. Everyone has their own path.
Some folks see one martial art as their alpha and omega, the beginning and the end and everything in the middle included. This is their end in and of itself. Others take the same exact martial art and see it as a means to the end and not and end in itself.They use that martial art combined with another martial art for self defense, etc. I feel in all the cases above that its all good. It is a personal preference.
MY WAY, THE ONLY WAY?: Some folks believe their religion, their diet, their martial art and way of training, and the techniques they embrace is the only way. Only Way? For who? Of course for them- But some folks attack others training likes, and dislikes. In that case every boy and girl, man and woman, old, middle age, should all do exactly the same thing, right? Of course not. Everyone has their own martial arts goals, likes, dis-likes, and this can all change later as that person ages,. What was once good for sport might now be used at an older age for fitness and health, or tweaked for self defense .
DIFFERENT WAYS OF TRAINING IN THE SAME MARTIAL ART: Lets take Jiu-Jitsu, some folks love competitive grappling. Some like self defense. Some like only training in a GI (wearing a uniform and being able to grab the cloth and utilize the cloth for control & submission, and against the opponent) only, and others like only training in No GI (no jiu-jitsu uniform, non- cloth, grabbing limbs, head, torso, and not using their opponents clothing as grabbing handles in submission grappling)--- It's the Same Jiujitsu System but different people enter different schools to be able to train like they wish. Same system of jiu-jitsu but the emphasis is different. Some train in jiu-jitsu and concentrate on only competitive sport techniques. Others train in the same jiu-jitsu and concentrate in street self defense. You can find students training in GI for self defense only, or GI for mat competition, or NO GI for for self defense, or NO GI for Street Self Defense. You can also find those who train in jiu-Jitsu in all of these ways. They try to be well rounded and well prepared. Then you have to ask yourself the question: Should they train in all facets of jiu-jitsu training? To be complete? Are they wrong for doing one segment only? Or adding MMA because they like it, or adding judo because they like it? Or doing gi and no gi only. Some Jiujitsu schools only want to do sport, some some schools only GI and some only no GI- Are they wrong because they don't train like everyone should, all the same? Or should everyone all train the same? The answer is they should train in what system(s) they want to train in, in the manner/way they want to train in.
I am glad we all have choices, and we can all believe our way is the best way, but the problem occurs when we think our way is the only way- everyone must believe, and train just as we do.The reality and right answer is: Everyone should train like they wish. That's the right way for them.
PERSONALLY: I train in many different systems, and I have learned as a police officer, and as a Deputy US Marshal (combined total law enforcement years): 30 years total. I study and research what works for me, and what doesn't work for me. I have taken a shotgun , two hand guns, and knives from folks who were trying to hurt me/ kill me- For me: I used defensive techniques (in each firearm, knife assault case against me) from different martial arts systems, and it worked. It is one thing to do weapon takeaways in a class using inert weapons (fake gun, fake knife, or a complying partner) and quite another when someone is trying to kill you with a functional loaded firearm, or real knife. There are methods that work in may martial arts, and methods that don't work in many martial arts systems.
For me, my techniques worked- They worked rolling around on bar room floors with drunk assailants, when I worked in a bar , and worked as a military cop in the US Marines and as a civilian cop, and as a fugitive man hunter- Deputy U.S. Marshal in: (Miami, Fort Lauderdale, Honolulu, Las Vegas, Texas) arresting large violent mean folks who did not want to surrender, and who were usually armed. I acquired great life saving reality based self defense techniques which worked for me. I now pass this methodology and training onto my students.
BACK TO THE QUESTION: The best martial art? For me is what works best is a Utilitarian Synergistic Combative method, in order to be successful to combat violent and often armed attacks. This is the writers personal interest. And what's best for you may be quite different than what my martial arts interest are. Notice I said different, no not wrong. I am grateful that we have so many good folks in our own academy who can enjoy to train in the manner and way that they choose, and believe in the martial arts discipline(s) that they believe in, whether it is one art, two or more disciplines- it's right for them because they chose it, not because you or I choose it for them.
And remember, you as a human are much more important than any one system or multiple systems of combat.
Have fun, grow and learn, and don't believe that you have to be monk like to enjoy any martial art. Do what you like, and love, as a way of life, as a hobby, and respect others ways. Never be enslaved to anything. You don't have to agree with me, or others who train different than you do- just respect that they travel a different road, one they believe is the best for them-and you travel the one you believe is best for you. Choose wisely when you choose to start taking martial arts.
It's all good-
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